Category Archives: Daily Musings

Life’s Juices

IMG_3719As I was spooning mangoes from the skin, in the second day of the solar drying process, the juice squirted on my blouse and ran down my arms, and I smiled, thinking how juicy my life is, how juicy our lives are.

I licked my arms, and used a paper towel to mop the juice from my blouse, which is now stained with mango juice — a visual reminder that my life is as sweet and nutritious as mangoes that I love.

Then I was reminded of last night, Ladies Night, when I dined with four girl-friends, Pam, Chris, Diane and Francine, at our favorite restaurant, Galangal.  We had a lovely dinner, and more than 4 glasses of champaign, and laughed and talked loud like only women, in the prime of their very happy lives and confident in themselves, will do. Juicy!  It was a sweet and delicious evening. Thank you Ladies!!!

This morning I got up and did my usual walk, but stopped by the beach to inhale the salty aroma, allow the splashing waves to rinse my mind  and tease my feet away from the grassy wet sand, and embraced the mist to moisten my skin.  Juicy!  How fortunate I am to be able to create as I stroll along the beach and visualize what’s next for me.

IMG_3722I suspect you too have sweet juices in your life, but you have to avail yourself to them.

Even when there is a drought or a down period in your life, there is hidden or tucked away a reservoir of juice that you can suck on to get you back on track.

So take a few minutes to find your life’s juices and savor and allow them to keep you steadfast and hydrated so you can do what you came here to do –contribute and laugh, head thrown back because you are Divine.

A Little Goes A long Way

Small steps

eventually lead to the topIMG_3571

while if you wait until

you can take one giant step

you might pull a muscle

rip your pants

or slip and fall

Do not loose sight

of your dream

be mindful

life seldom

happens in one giant leap

like anything else such as

building  a house

you must lay the foundation

before you can erect walls

because you are wise

you know a little

goes a  long way

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so daily take a step

towards the legacy

you intend to leave…

Inseparable Individuals

Almost forty years ago, Bishop made the simple knot known as the Friendship knot (also called the false-lover knot) as a ring. However, he was inspired to revisit this idea, and make it as a bracelet when he was asked to teach two high schoolers some basic steps in jewelry making.gold

Perhaps he was thinking of his own contented life — celebrating 40 years of being a jeweler, and the owner of Crucian Gold, that his son, Nathan now runs. Bishop says, “The idea of being joined, yet remaining separate individuals,” is the meaning of a mature relationship that is based on mutual respect and love.” Like a wedding ring, specifically, the Turks Head, that he pioneered the technique in metal forty years ago, Bishop wants his jewelry to represent more. “This is what this bracelet symbolizes for me –two individuals who want to be connected always, but maintain their separate identities.”

Bishop is still at the top of his game and his passion for designing and manufacturing has not waned. In fact, like good wine, he has gotten better, honed his craft, and his new Cuff bracelets,cuffbracelet

available in silver and gold, confirm his talent.

Inseparable Individuals, is his revisiting of an old favorite, the “Friendship” knot, and bringing it forward while infusing it with greater meaning for lovers as well as friends.

Because love and friendship matter to all of us, Bishop hopes you will want to get this special piece in solid gold, especially for the mature individual, when only gold will do. However, it is also available in two-toned, gold and silver, which adds a special touch and highlights two distinct individuals; or in silver with a hammered look –Nathan’s added touch.DSC00045

The Inseparable Individuals bracelet is only available at Crucian Gold, and is as distinct as the Crucian Knot bracelet, where feel the love is embedded in every piece they make.

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Visit Crucian Gold – www.cruciangold.com – and mention this blog and receive a 5% discount.

We Are All Teachers

IMG_3433Anyone can teach bright, gifted children.

A bright child does not show one how to teach.

A bright child does not really need a teacher.  Just show her or steer him in the right direction and they will go from there,  self-motivated.  The gifted child already knows there are many windows from which to look out on the world.

This is a minority group, “the gifted.”

Most of us are just average, or even below average, given the popular paradigm.  We have to pay close attention;  we make lots of mistakes; we have to do any task over and over, and then we get it, and even excel.

A true teacher knows that you earn your chops when you are able to reach those children who are just below the margin, those who fit within the lowest common denominator.

While it is believed that there are several learning styles — auditory, visual, a combination of both, by example– there  are those learners who do not fit into any of those categories, and contrary to popular belief they are not dumb or stupid or any other derogatory term we often throw at those learners who need more attention and time to figure out and solve the problem.

A true teacher knows the first and most important rule of teaching is Compassion.  You have to like and believe in the innate ability of your students. You have to have as your core belief that everyone is teachable, and that as a teacher you will do what is necessary to not just motivate, but ensure that all your students excel. You will find the way and work with the individual rather than the group.

The second cardinal rule is Expectation. You have to have clear and high expectation of your student, and let her know that these are your standards and you expect her to rise to the occasion, with tutelage and guidance.

The third rule  is Encouragement/Perseverance.  Even when your student does not appear to be mastering set skills, you must encourage him to keep trying, and you also must help him to explore alternatives.

The fourth rule is as important at the first and that is Trust the Process — there are no mistakes, just the process of trial and error that leads to discovery and results. All too often when students make a mistake, we make them feel ashamed, as if she is a failure, rather than exploring avenues that will lead to the desired answer.

Learning is a process like walking –it takes many trials, falling, stumbling, holding on, picking yourself up, gaining balance and confidence–  then you learn the trick, how to balance while putting one foot in front of the other,  and after a while you don’t even think about it; it’s encoded.

We are all teachers, not just to our children and our colleagues, but to everyone we meet.  Everyday we teach someone something, and every day we are learners too –someone is teaching us something.

What kind of teacher are you modeling?  Are you modeling good teaching?

Maybe you are a quick learner, and therefore get impatient with others who do not process information as quickly as you.

Maybe you believe there is only one kind of learner, and those who do not process information as you do are not smart.

A good teacher is not arrogant or cocky or smug.

A good teacher is often a very good person to be around.

A good teacher allows compassion to be her guide.IMG_3557

If you keep having poor students or you are surrounded by people who are not as competent as you, then maybe you are the cause, and you are not such a good teacher after all or you are not modeling excellence.

Even when you don’t say it out loud or directly to your student, s/he knows how you feel about her/him; it is evident in your very demeanor.

If you want someone to excel then treat  him/her with respect; speak words of encouragement; model good practices and be open to multiple ways to get at the answer.

We are all teachers, and we are teaching others all the time by our behavior and the words we speak.

I Am The I Am

I am

I was

I have been

I will always be

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What i seek

i see

i envision it

until it is my lived

experience

I give thanks for it

until it is so apart of my life

it is my second skin

i expect it

i accept it

This is who I am

This is what I deserve

This is the blessing

This is the grace

This is the divine love & truth

I will not speak away

my blessings

I will not dwell

in someone else’s house

because

I am

and always will be

the I am that I am

Just Keep On Living

I have been diligent about filing complaints against big businesses’ monopoly, but mostly their unfair, really terrorist practices. And no, I am not being dramatic.

In fact, the banks and the mortgage companies are the greatest threat to the average person who abides by the law and cherish the dream of owning a home and passing it on to their children.

I am tired of being given the run around. They relinquish all blame and pass the buck, from one person to the next, no one seems to know what the other is doing.  Their goal, and effective strategy, to frustrate and tire you out so you give up, and allow them to exploit you and win.

I have been and will for the rest of my life fight against Nazism/Racism/Slavery/Bankism  and other allowable acts of terrorism against the average citizen.

So maybe someone can explain what this response from Wells Fargo Means:

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Delete that Memory

DSC05749We all have stories that we tell.

Some folks focus only on the negative

and like a wind-up doll

they keep telling the same sad tale

to whomever will listen.

I’m not sure why

some folks only dwell on the negative,

what’s not right

what someone did them

victimhood!!!

I have no patience for those stories

anymore

they don’t help the victim

nor the listener to move forward.

Often, the person telling the story

will insist it’s the absolute truth

but every story has many sides.

You might select to only see/hear

the version that makes you comfortable.

Well I’m inviting you

to stop telling sad, victimhood stories

about your life.

Find the good , the light, the joy.

Make yourself a hero

–find the myriad shades

of blue — all the nuianceDSC05464

evident in the ocean and other

things in nature– and speak

those realities too and you might

just find your way to more light.

Interviewing the Caribbean

Dear Caribbean Sisters & Brothers, Fellow Writers/Artists:

Who owns your creativity, your ideas, your work?

Is it important that you get credit and monetary compensation for it?

Of what value is your creative work to the development of a Caribbean identity and society?

Is it okay for others to borrow, sample, reuse, your work without permission?

These are just some of the issues we want to see explore in this first inaugural issue of the journal, Interviewing the Caribbean.

Submit, poems, stories, interviews and conversations.

IC call for entries

Wait and See

Sometimes

after you have done

everything

you know how

after you have explored

multiple angles

and you have not gotten

the results or desire

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then all you can

do is

wait and see

but do this with

expectation

with zooming focus

on what

you want

and deserve

and be prepared

for something

even better

to manifest

What’s Stopping You

95% of the time, the excuse many people give for not doing what they want to do, is lack of money.

I wish I could travel, but I just don’t have the money.

I wish I could work part time, but I cannot live on half of what I make.

I wish I could write a book, but I just don’t have the time to take than on now.

I really have a lot of great ideas, but have no money to execute them.

I think I would be great at…but it’s too late now or I can’t afford to switch gears at this stage of my life.DSC05443

When do you stop making excuses?

When do you seize the moment?

You are the only one stopping you.

Many of my friends have way more money than me, and could do far more traveling, but they don’t. Even though they say that is one of their desires.

Because they also make way more money than me, if they did some adjustments, they too could live comfortably on half their income, and have the time to do some of those others things they have been putting off.

For me it has always been about choice.  How do I want to go out — meaning die?

I have always lived by the code, if I die tomorrow, I don’t want regrets to be anywhere in the equation.

Therefore, I do and go now.  I explore ideas now.  I live my dreams now.

I don’t know if I will ever have enough money, or if there will ever be the right time, or that when I retire, I will begin to do all the things I have put off.

I am not allowing money, time  or circumstances to stop me.  I am not allowing myself to stop me.

Now is all I have and I refuse to squander it.DSC05450

So dump your excuses and ask yourself, “What’s stopping me?”

Look in the mirror when you do, as more than likely, the person stopping you is the one staring back at you.